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Will it feel strange? But, will it help? Also yes. Just thinking of a time when you were feeling giddy will automatically bring a smile to your face—a move that will set off all those feel-good neurotransmitters in your brain and trick you into feeling happier than you were just a few secs before. Once you're feeling a little better, hold onto that feeling by leaning into something that makes you feel really good, such as cracking open your favorite book or going for a run.

When you're lonely, you'll bury yourself in your thoughts—usually bummer ones—but, as they say, "gratitude turns what we have into enough. Doing this will shift your thoughts from ones about you and your slump, to those about other people you care about and positive factors in your life.

To make sure you're letting loneliness drive you toward the right thing, consider signing up to volunteer. Dedicating a day to working with the elderly or making meals at a soup kitchen will fulfill your desire to feel needed and draw you away from the self-centered mindset that loneliness brings on. Plus, the time you spend getting to know the people you're serving will bring out some of the intimacy and connection you've been craving.

These Dog Makeovers Are Amazing. This one's great for a ton of reasons. But when it comes to loneliness, interacting with animals has the power to release dopamine in the brain, which is a biggie since the chemical is associated with pleasure and rewards. More than that, walking your dog or taking your cat to the vet for a checkup is an opportunity to start up conversations with other pet owners and maybe even make a new friend, says Cacioppo. It might make you uncomfortable at first, but it might also be totally worth it.

Sign up for a pottery class or a club for fellow true crime documentary lovers, for example. Oh, the club you want doesn't exist? Start one.

Interacting with people with whom you share a common interest makes for a better chance at forming meaningful connections, Cacioppo says, which is usually what lonely people are missing from life. Yeah, you probably already have waking up, working, eating, and exercising down pat, but maybe your life's in need of a little more structure, suggests Cacioppo. Feelings of loneliness often feel like they'll last forever and there's nothing you can do to escape the dark cloud hanging over your head, but that's not true.

It can be hard to remind yourself that loneliness is usually temporary, so Cacioppo recommends a strict schedule. It's harder to feel alone when you "have a plan and a purpose," she explains. So, set alarms for an early-morning meditation, a phone call with your sister, and an evening face mask.

Pre-planning them will instill you with a sense of control, too. Once you've come up with a schedule, stick to it as much as you can. It'll be tough sometimes, but as long as you take it one day at a time, the structured routine will feel more and more natural, she adds. It gets your body moving, gives you a chance to clear your mind, and even offers opportunities to run into a neighbor for a quick chat—all reasons why Rokach is a big fan.

Even if you don't interact with anyone, studies show walks have significant effects on mood. Just a few minutes outside can stop your mood from worsening and can help combat feelings of dread that loneliness brings on. The Art of Listening. Call someone you love and who cares about you. Rather than exchanging the same old how are yous and fines, actively listen to and really engage with the person on the other line.

When they mention something about their lives, ask them for the backstory and let them talk. Need some inspo? These questions can help spark a meaningful conversation. Everyone wants to be heard, so give someone in your life the gift of really listening to them , and let their stories take you out of your lonely headspace for a while.

A psychologist won't be able to bring you out of your loneliness—only you can do that—but "they can help you come to terms with the situation," explains Rokach. They'll remind you of how much power you have to move forward from this by helping you pinpoint what in your life might be off-kilter and contributing to your loneliness.

Once you isolate the cause, a therapist will help you come up with a game plan to address it. If you're feeling lonely because you don't believe any of your relationships are substantive, now's your chance to do something about it. Start off somewhere you feel comfortable. Take your workout class, for example: Approach the person who high fives you after each segment or notices when you miss a class.

Strike up a conversation as best you can, and you may just hit it off. Yes, new friends! Stuck at home? Try reaching out to an old friend via Instagram DM to see what's new with them. While they might sound the same, solitude is different because it's a choice, explains Rokach. You could let your loneliness consume you let's face it, sometimes you can't help it , or you can turn your loneliness into solitude—time spent alone doing something that's meaningful to you.

Maybe you express how you're feeling by painting, writing a short story, doing a puzzle, learning a dance routine, or recording a cover of that song you can't get out of your head. Since loneliness can stick around for a while, it helps to have an outlet.

It might help you forget you're lonely for a bit, but you'll only end up feeling worse in the end. The key is to slow down for a bit and focus on something you really love or something you've always wanted to do but never did because sticking to the mundane won't help much.

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